• @frostbiker@lemmy.ca
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    119 months ago

    Yes, racially exclusive associations are gross. Same with events that exclude attendance based on sex/gender. We are all people.

    • @Showroom7561@lemmy.ca
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      169 months ago

      Same with events that exclude attendance based on sex/gender.

      There’s a time and a place.

      For example, a “women’s only” group may be for a group of women who are healing from a sexually violent relationship, so they really don’t want to see men there.

      But a parent and child group that excludes races? That just a gross kind of bigotry.

      • @HerbalGamer@lemm.ee
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        109 months ago

        I get what you’re saying, but bear in mind that women can be both in relationships with other women and those can also be violent.

      • @frostbiker@lemmy.ca
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        For example, a “women’s only” group may be for a group of women who are healing from a sexually violent relationship, so they really don’t want to see men there.

        “Maybe that whites-only parenting group could be healing from some trauma caused by POC and they don’t really want to see POC there.”

        Do you see the problem? A POC causing you trauma is not a good reason to reject POC people in general, and a man causing you trauma isn’t a good reason to reject men in general either.

        A group dedicated to victims of domestic violence could easily encompass both men and women who have suffered from it, whether the perpetrators were men or women. Cis & trans, it bears saying.

        A person who has a blanket phobia of people of a particular gender or ethnicity needs therapy to address their sexism/racism. “I don’t feel safe around men” has the exact same energy as “I don’t feel safe around black people”.

        • Victor Villas
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          59 months ago

          “I don’t feel safe around men” has the exact same energy as “I don’t feel safe around black people”.

          lol how to identify a dude on the Internet

          • @frostbiker@lemmy.ca
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            9 months ago

            lol how to identify a dude on the Internet

            Is that the best argument you can put forth against what I’m saying? I can give you some more ammunition: I’m queer, disabled, atheist, an immigrant and vote green. Or perhaps those are collectives that you don’t feel comfortable discriminating openly.

            • Victor Villas
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              39 months ago

              That was not an argument, don’t know why you’d think it is one.

              I just found it amusing