I’m (19F by the way, not like 50) a bad texter. I can be not dry when I want to be, but usually I’m just not up for texting. I really don’t engage with my friends. (I’m asocial).

I don’t participate in their activities. I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are. I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.

When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.

Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this, but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.

One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”. IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.

  • CatDemons4OP
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    2 days ago

    Thank you. No I am not okay, thank you for asking. My friend just blocked me, apparently because she’s going to “leave me alone now”

    • Novice_Idiot@lemmy.wtf
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      Yeah, that checks out, but remember youre not a fundamentally bad person. You can possibly even salvage the friendship with apologies and doing some work on yourself. Either way, working on yourself is a good idea, it’s worth it just in general also.