I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve literally always been curious about this. I’ve never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I’ve never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences…it’s just the way I’ve always been even if I try. I’m old enough to say that I’m way beyond simply being a “late bloomer”. It’s just something I’ll never experience.

But it often feels like I’m missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I’ve never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?

Thank you.

Sincerely, An Outsider

  • Tanis Nikana
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    21 month ago

    Eh, I’m also intersex and lack the musculature to do anything with my genitals.

    It’s also a physical problem. Doesn’t really need fixing.

    It’s temporary, forty or fifty more years and I won’t have to worry none about it.

    • @lud@lemm.ee
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      41 month ago

      Sure, but optimally you shouldn’t feel fear and terror by any thoughts.

      There is nothing wrong with not wanting sex but feeling fear and terror surely can’t be good.

      • Tanis Nikana
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        11 month ago

        I manage. There’s no sex in my day to day life, no libido either. It’s not a thing that comes up often.

        • @lud@lemm.ee
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          21 month ago

          Yeah, I hope you are not unhappy because of this.

          Please at least try and get some help if it ever becomes anything more than an inconvenience :)

          • Tanis Nikana
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            21 month ago

            I’ve had two strokes; sex is the least of my worries.

            My goal is to be weird and intimidating now, and I’m pretty good at it. Still friendly though.

            • @lud@lemm.ee
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              41 month ago

              That’s sucks.

              Having being intimidating as your goal seems like an odd strategy but sure. You do you.

              Have a nice day!