Hi, I’m Dee.

I was browsing through the various instances to join up with because I was tired of all the downtime with lemmy.world and I wanted to start using Lemmy as it was intended (spreading accounts out among more instances). That, and Beehaw hasn’t been quite as engaging since defederation with lemmy.world and other large instances (which is why I went back to the lemmy.world account in the first place). I get why they defederated and I support their decision, it just was an overall negative impact for me in my Beehaw experience since I was in so many other communities outside of Beehaw.

This instance seemed chill, it blocks Threads and exploding heads so that’s a great first impression. There’s a few more instances I’d like to see added to the block list but that’s a good enough start for me to get comfy here. The low user count has made everything just run so much quicker than with lemmy.world and I can still enjoy the same communities.

Happy to have found this place that appears to be here for the long haul and I’m looking forward to getting to know the local instance community more!

Edit: Sorry for triggering the snowflakes in the comments and for them feeling the need to provide substantial proof for why so many other instances defederate from them by default.

  • DeeOP
    1•11 months ago

    Sure, thanks for being open to it even from a new user!

    Pulling from some other instances’ list of blocked instances:

    • rammy. site (becoming more exploding heads-like due to what appears to be admin abandonment)
    • detroitriotcity. com (similar vibes to exploding heads crowd)
    • eientei. org (racism in one of the opening rules on their about page, very exploding heads-like with a dash of shota/loli content)

    .

    There’s probably some more that honestly shouldn’t cause many issues for an instance this size but probably good to defederate preemptively. I was going to pull from lemmy.world’s blocked instance list because I think they have a good list built there, but their site is down so I can’t see the actual list they have defederated lol

    • Rikudou_SageMAEnglish
      2•11 months ago

      Good list, all 3 defederated after evaluation.

      • DeeOP
        1•11 months ago

        I blocked and reported a few more in this thread, which you probably already saw. Can we get defederation from bae(.)st and detroitcity(.)com as well? Same reasons as the other three instances listed above.

        Maybe throw hexbear(.)net in there as well for brigading comments a lot like this post. Not the first time I saw it from that instance either.

        • Rikudou_SageMAEnglish
          2•11 months ago
          • Hexbear didn’t seem to do anything wrong as far as I know.
          • I will be writing to admins of bae.st after some more research, I defederated from them as well
          • detroitriotcity has been defederated from.
          • Jezza™
            3•11 months ago

            @rikudou @Dee Each defederation is a step closer to becoming the next Gab: they defederated from everyone. Congrats!

            • Rikudou_SageMAEnglish
              2•11 months ago

              Have you considered not actively promoting harming other users?

                • Rikudou_SageMAEnglish
                  2•11 months ago

                  I didn’t mean you specifically. I’m not particularly fond of people being called niggers, faggots and other similar slurs. One of those was from a moderator of the instance, so it was an officially endorsed action by that instance.

                  The other I wanted to contact first, until I noticed in the profile of the admin that they use similar slurs and sentiments in their bio.

                  What are we even pretending here? Those people came here (unprompted I might add) and just for shit and giggles started calling people names because they knew they’ll get a reaction. Well, they got their reaction. If it was an action of an individual, I would just ban them but given the fact that it was the instance admins, I thought it safe to block the whole instance.

                  • Jezza™
                    8•11 months ago

                    @rikudou we’re pretending this is the free and open internet, an alternative to censorship and nannying that drove most of us here 5+ years ago to get away from it.

                    For my part, I can’t figure out why now people who want a curated, censored internet come to the wild west, then complain, then began breaking down the linkages between instances because of their individual sensitivities instead of going somewhere that already caters to coddling and enforcing thought regimentation.

                  • CrustyB
                    1•11 months ago

                    You can defederate, block, censor, banish, and cover your ears to words you dislike. Or you can have the intellectually & morally stronger argument.
                    The latter is much effective and long lasting

                  • GabeLakmann
                    0•11 months ago

                    Can you please put a trigger warning on this post if you’re going to *actualy* type out the n-word and the f-word in full plesse?

                    It’s 2023 in case you didn’t know and I see no good reason for anyone to actually type or say those words in their full form.

                    Sorry if I come off as rude or whatever but this is a touchy subject and I don’t want any of our Bi-POC (Bi-sexual Persons Of Color) allies to be offended

          • DeeOP
            1•11 months ago

            Thanks for taking the time/consideration and defederating from those two.