I mean there’s so many underlying issues with incels and trying to overcome learned helplessness is no small task. But an idea that helped me was that there is either a problem with me and what I’m doing, or there’s a problem with all women. One of those issues I can take steps to try and improve, the other is completely out of my control and nothing I do will ever change that.

If you are incapable or unwilling to go through an honest introspection of yourself then things will never change for you imo.